I will be sharing "10 Rules for Dating (from a biblical prospective)" over the next couple of days on my blog. Take a moment and check it out. http://blog.exodusthreetwelve.com/
"Pace yourself, don’t get caught up in that “love place”. The place where your stomach hurts, when are they gonna call, and everything you see reminds you of the person. While in the “love place”, everything is perfect, you are going out all the time, the conversations are good, and you are having the best sex of your life"
I had to read that two times, he is say that if you go to fast you might get caught in that "love place" where you always need the other person and you create a soul tie... This is a dangerous place to be... I was in a relationship for 4 years and i created a soul tie with this person and I always need her to be with me every second and when she wasnt it really sucked... I recently did something that I did only because I still feel tie to her... I always want her and will do anything to be with her... I am not talking about a sexual relationship but it can come to that...
Quote"in the “love place”, everything is perfect, you are going out all the time, the conversations are good, and you are having the best sex of your life" -This is the danger of the "love place"... but what he is saying is dont get too involved in a relationship, dont be eager but wait on the lord and it will come to past... I wish I would have done this because I may have screwed up what could have been a life long relationship...
Ok I think I get what he is saying....but it still sounds kind of bad. I dont think you can stop those feelings, but you can do things that will protect you from acting on them. Not being alone together is one way. May sound harsh, but feelings like that are extremely strong, especially for young adults. Why put a temptation in your own way?
We all have made mistakes Jacob..dont be so hard on yourself, be determined to learn from it. =)
@Jay Thanks, I have to admit that I have had a victim mentality for a while now because of mistakes and other things Im my life that I dont feel that I deserve but I went to church and talk to my pastor and he told me something very simple that I have always "known" but I understand know it that life is simply not fair... thats it... its just not fair... So I got over it and know I look at those things as chastening, something we all need...
Thanks for clearing that up for me Jacob. I also forgot that there are a ton of young adults on this forum. This is really targeted towards 18+ People who are dating with a purpose. (Please dont be offended by that comment if you are under 18)
heyy i wanna thank you and bless you all for helping me because im 21 about to be 22 in august and its kinda a tough age to be at right now well it is and its not because everyone has somebody a botfriend or a soul mate already im single but sometimes im like when is it my turn i know i shouldint be like that but its sometimes hard to control the flesh i know um gonna have me my future man of god in gods time but its sometimes hard but i could do it though i dont really talk to much people i kind of keep to myself at home im really just seeking gods face and praying all the time and trying to make his kingdom come i dont wanna be a christain that compalins because nothings really hapening in my life but idk its all god
so im just trusting god on this and what do you think..... i live in sacramento california and its really hard for me to get a job out here and everything im applying everyyywhereee and lifes toughh and i feel like god is leading me to go out and live in oregon my mom had a firend that lives out there and i have two friends that live out there and i really wanna go out there and see what else there is in the world and i feel like i could really have a fun life out there and there is good christain churches out there too and i feel like i could probably get a job really fast living out there than i can out here i think i can meet cool new people out there and cool christain friends
Jacob, so true. Things arent fair now. Bad things sometimes happen to good people, we are living in critical times. But we can have joy when we listen to God. And his laws are really not burdensome but a protection.
Bryan, just to be clear, "18+ People who are dating with a purpose" should not be having unmarried sex either.
Never said they should, but most have a better grip on their emotions. Love isnt because he looks like Justin Bieber or let me wear his necklace.
Dating with a purpose was referring to someone who is ready for their kingdom mate. Dont want a debate (Just wanted to post that some of the content might be applicable and/or appropriate for the sub 18 audience on this forum)
"[While in the “love place”, everything is perfect, you are going out all the time, the conversations are good, and you are having the best sex of your life"]" - Quoted from the the above Blog
"(Just wanted to post that some of the content might NOT be applicable and/or appropriate for the sub 18 audience on this forum)" - Bryan Omega
~It doesnt matter if you are 8 or 80, sex is a NOOOOO before marriage. period.
but i also understand, being in the 18+ category, i think that we have alot of pressure for sex. im not putting anyone down in the teens, because i know that its hard then too, but when you reach your 20s, you have such a different peer group and mentality its crazy.
i appreciate this!!! its good to know im not the only one struggling with this!
but i also understand, being in the 18+ category, i think that we have alot of pressure for sex. im not putting anyone down in the teens, because i know that its hard then too, but when you reach your 20s, you have such a different peer group and mentality its crazy.
i appreciate this!!! its good to know im not the only one struggling with this!
"Cmon Japlace lets be mature about this…" -Bryan Omega ~yes! lets do this maturely. And you yourself named who we should be concerned about here, young teens. So in order to do that, dont say something and come back around and say, "dont say this!"...
“Maturity begins to grow when you can sense your concern for others outweighing your concern for yourself.” - John MacNaughton
37 replies on this topic
Justin - 6/1/10 @ 4:25 PM
I looked at it and I have to say I like it. Keep it going.
Bryan Omega - 6/2/10 @ 4:19 AM
Thanks Justin. Rule 4 is now up. Will try to have 5-7 up tomorrow.
jay.me - 6/2/10 @ 6:34 PM
"Pace yourself, don’t get caught up in that “love place”. The place where your stomach hurts, when are they gonna call, and everything you see reminds you of the person. While in the “love place”, everything is perfect, you are going out all the time, the conversations are good, and you are having the best sex of your life"
What are you saying?
Jacob R. Collins - 6/2/10 @ 6:43 PM
I had to read that two times, he is say that if you go to fast
you might get caught in that "love place" where you always
need the other person and you create a soul tie... This is
a dangerous place to be...
I was in a relationship for 4 years and i created a soul tie
with this person and I always need her to be with me every
second and when she wasnt it really sucked...
I recently did something that I did only because I still feel
tie to her... I always want her and will do anything to be
with her... I am not talking about a sexual relationship but
it can come to that...
Quote"in the “love place”, everything is perfect, you are going out all the time, the conversations are good, and you are having the best sex of your life"
-This is the danger of the "love place"... but what he is
saying is dont get too involved in a relationship, dont be
eager but wait on the lord and it will come to past...
I wish I would have done this because I may have screwed up
what could have been a life long relationship...
jay.me - 6/2/10 @ 7:11 PM
Ok I think I get what he is saying....but it still sounds kind of bad.
I dont think you can stop those feelings, but you can do things that will protect you from acting on them. Not being alone together is one way. May sound harsh, but feelings like that are extremely strong, especially for young adults. Why put a temptation in your own way?
We all have made mistakes Jacob..dont be so hard on yourself, be determined to learn from it. =)
Jacob R. Collins - 6/2/10 @ 11:22 PM
@Jay
Thanks, I have to admit that I have had a victim mentality
for a while now because of mistakes and other things Im my
life that I dont feel that I deserve but I went to church
and talk to my pastor and he told me something very simple
that I have always "known" but I understand know it that
life is simply not fair... thats it... its just not fair...
So I got over it and know I look at those things as chastening,
something we all need...
Bryan Omega - 6/3/10 @ 7:16 AM
Thanks for clearing that up for me Jacob.
I also forgot that there are a ton of young adults on this forum. This is really targeted towards 18+ People who are dating with a purpose. (Please dont be offended by that comment if you are under 18)
Bryan Omega - 6/3/10 @ 12:34 PM
Five, Six, and Seven now posted
Rosemarie - 6/3/10 @ 3:27 PM
heyy i wanna thank you and bless you all for helping me because im 21 about to be 22 in august and its kinda a tough age to be at right now well it is and its not because everyone has somebody a botfriend or a soul mate already im single but sometimes im like when is it my turn i know i shouldint be like that but its sometimes hard to control the flesh i know um gonna have me my future man of god in gods time but its sometimes hard but i could do it though i dont really talk to much people i kind of keep to myself at home im really just seeking gods face and praying all the time and trying to make his kingdom come i dont wanna be a christain that compalins because nothings really hapening in my life but idk its all god
Rosemarie - 6/3/10 @ 3:31 PM
so im just trusting god on this and what do you think..... i live in sacramento california and its really hard for me to get a job out here and everything im applying everyyywhereee and lifes toughh and i feel like god is leading me to go out and live in oregon my mom had a firend that lives out there and i have two friends that live out there and i really wanna go out there and see what else there is in the world and i feel like i could really have a fun life out there and there is good christain churches out there too and i feel like i could probably get a job really fast living out there than i can out here i think i can meet cool new people out there and cool christain friends
Rosemarie - 6/3/10 @ 3:33 PM
i could probably do that out here too but its just wayy too hard out here
jay.me - 6/3/10 @ 7:29 PM
Jacob, so true. Things arent fair now. Bad things sometimes happen to good people, we are living in critical times. But we can have joy when we listen to God. And his laws are really not burdensome but a protection.
Bryan, just to be clear, "18+ People who are dating with a purpose" should not be having unmarried sex either.
Bryan Omega - 6/3/10 @ 9:39 PM
Never said they should, but most have a better grip on their emotions. Love isnt because he looks like Justin Bieber or let me wear his necklace.
Dating with a purpose was referring to someone who is ready for their kingdom mate. Dont want a debate (Just wanted to post that some of the content might be applicable and/or appropriate for the sub 18 audience on this forum)
Bryan Omega - 6/3/10 @ 9:41 PM
Above should read: (Just wanted to post that some of the content might NOT be applicable and/or appropriate for the sub 18 audience on this forum)
Japlace - 6/3/10 @ 11:35 PM
"[While in the “love place”, everything is perfect, you are going out all the time, the conversations are good, and you are having the best sex of your life"]" - Quoted from the the above Blog
"(Just wanted to post that some of the content might NOT be applicable and/or appropriate for the sub 18 audience on this forum)" - Bryan Omega
~It doesnt matter if you are 8 or 80, sex is a NOOOOO before marriage. period.
the_underdog - 6/4/10 @ 1:45 AM
i get what everyone is saying....
but i also understand, being in the 18+ category, i think that we have alot of pressure for sex. im not putting anyone down in the teens, because i know that its hard then too, but when you reach your 20s, you have such a different peer group and mentality its crazy.
i appreciate this!!! its good to know im not the only one struggling with this!
the_underdog - 6/4/10 @ 1:46 AM
i get what everyone is saying....
but i also understand, being in the 18+ category, i think that we have alot of pressure for sex. im not putting anyone down in the teens, because i know that its hard then too, but when you reach your 20s, you have such a different peer group and mentality its crazy.
i appreciate this!!! its good to know im not the only one struggling with this!
Bryan Omega - 6/4/10 @ 4:31 AM
Cmon Japlace lets be mature about this…
Rule 7 is Choose not to touch. (Again written with an adult audience in mind)
I think we all agree that sex before marriage is wrong, but at the same time dont rush into the wrong relationship just to have "right sex"
If you want to discuss this topic do it on the blog, because somewhere a 14 year old is giggling thinking he said "right sex" :o)
Japlace - 6/4/10 @ 8:30 AM
ok, i will reply on the blog.
Japlace - 6/4/10 @ 8:43 AM
"Cmon Japlace lets be mature about this…" -Bryan Omega
~yes! lets do this maturely. And you yourself named who we should be concerned about here, young teens. So in order to do that, dont say something and come back around and say, "dont say this!"...
“Maturity begins to grow when you can sense your concern for others outweighing your concern for yourself.” - John MacNaughton