God's perfect timing by Love is patient. - C28 Christian Forum Discussion

This is a long story of how I met this boy, (read my prayer request) I'm a high school sophomore and he is a high school senior. Right now, I'm just putting my focus on God and being patient on His perfect timing so I could know if he is God's will for my life. Just in case you ask, this boy is a believer and has already been saved. Since I'm young and I have some priorities, I'm not trying to pursue any relationship with him right now and I don't want to be a distraction for the Lord's plans for his life.

I gave him an anonymous Christmas letter that told him how sweet I think he is and that I'm so glad to meet him. It would be obvious I liked him so I didn't give out my name in the letter. I don't want him to know I like him but he is a senior and next school year, he's moving far away to be in college. This is my last year to be able to see him...

Should I tell him it was me that sent him the Christmas card if he asks me? (Lots of incidents happen that made it obvious it was me who sent him the card.) Should I tell him I like him before he moves to college?

PS: Can you please not post on my wall. If you are going to, please just comment on my wall post.

11 replies on this topic

Love is patient. - 12/25/11 @ 11:52 AM

Can someone please tell me?

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PutHisBloodOnIt - 12/25/11 @ 3:42 PM

If he asks you you have to tell him yes we are commanded to not lie no matter how big or small the lie you think it is.

To be honest you should have not written in the card how sweet you think he is if you truly didnt want any relationship with him or for him to find out you like him, you said your priority is God first but you dony want to pursue him, Im gonna be dead honest here and tell you I think your kidding yopurself and deep down you kinda hope he found out it was you and hope it started something between you too.

If you truly did not want him to find out you would have never written him the card especially with what you put in the card! Now you could have possibly caused a distraction to him and his plans, I think deep down inside you knew what you were doing and probably knew he was going to find out.

KingsKid - 12/26/11 @ 11:04 AM

I think you should read the book "Before You Meet Prince Charming" by Sarah Mally. I just finished reading it, and if you truly want to focus on Jesus and not on relationships, this book is a huge encouragement. Check it out.

Love is patient. - 12/26/11 @ 8:06 PM

@PHBO Thank you for imposing your moral values on me and showing me what I did wrong. I'll just avoid this boy as much as I can.

@Kingskid Can you please tell me what that book is about and many important themes or message you received? I doubt I am able to go to a bookstore that sells cheap books.

Needy Servant - 12/26/11 @ 11:27 PM

It seems like you are trying to dig at phboi, that statement you made came off very vitriolic.

Whether or not your reply to phboi was sincere I must say - you posted on here for advice and phboi gave you the truth.
I absolutely agree with him. Without reiterating and seeming to beat the dead horse, sometimes the best thing to hear is exactly what we don't want to hear.

Love is patient. - 12/26/11 @ 11:39 PM

@ Needy Servant LOL No I'm not trying to say anything bad. I'll just take his advice. I'm going to avoid this boy as much as I can. I'm just going to stay away from this boy and try not to distract him.

Thirst - 12/27/11 @ 7:15 PM

LIP - Chill. PHBOI is an arrogant prick at times (I am too, PHBOI, before you jump down my throat).

However, he's right. And believe it or not, I understand both the attraction you're having and hearing you're screwing up from the oh so superiour people.

We delude oursleves that we're superiour because we've done what you're doing right now. Heck, right now I'm desperate for my best friend, even when I'm the one who's moving away and she isn't Christian. My brain is telling me to do one thing, and every time I see her I find myself wanting something else.

Trust me. I understand exactly what you're feeling. And I'm willing to bet I'm not the only one.

My advice? Check the Bible. See what it has to say about it. You seem to have done that already, for love is patient, like Christ. It also says that we are to be like Christ; it says we are to be patient.

So wait. If God wills it, your boy will come back, and God will show you that he's the one. As he's leaving soon, however, all you can do is be patient, and wait

PutHisBloodOnIt - 12/27/11 @ 7:24 PM

What can I say if anyone ever wants a honest opinion on what I think I will give it to you straight, you want the truth im gonna give it to you, you want someone to lie and tell you what you want to hear dont come to me simple as that I guess, I expect people to be straight forward with me no matter what it is. In this life get lied to and manipulated too much as it is, as brothers and sisters I think we need to be completely honest even if the truth hurts or if its not what the other person wants to hear.

Thirst - 12/27/11 @ 8:50 PM

We can discuss this on my wall, or even on yours if you want. However, lets keep this thread on topic

PutHisBloodOnIt - 12/27/11 @ 8:57 PM

Last comment wasnt pointed to you thirst what you said is fine by me but I know love is patient has not been here long so I wanted to let her know if she wanted an honest answer that there are many people here on this forum willing to give her honest answers and help her.

Love is patient. - 12/27/11 @ 9:11 PM

@Phbo Thanks for helping me out. I realized some important things now.