Ok I am still being obiedient to God...To be honest I don't know why..because I've prayed EARNSTLY with tears until my eyes couldn't produce anymore and I still am praying and making steps to stop being gay...but I still have no attraction what so ever towards men....And my logic is this
1. Eithier God is o.k with homosexuality
or 2. God sends all these people to tell me the way im living my life is wrong and he divinly writes the bible where it says that homosexuality is wrong...yet even though i pray constantly and for many many hours crying my eyes out for God to change my heart...but All he does is give me fruit of the spirit but never has he changed my desires to be with a woman.
smh!!!! Is God some kind of dark twisted being that he has the "Power" to change me but choose not to even when i make myself willing and still says i will go to hell.....
Please someone!!! Anyone!! Make sence of the crazyness?!!!
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28 replies on this topic
Vanessa - 10/30/10 @ 5:10 PM
God isn't a genie in a bottle. He may be using this to further your development, possibly your patience or your commitment (to continue asking Him to remove this from you). I also think He wants his children to work to resist the temptation. It isn't something that happens overnight, it is something you need to constantly strive to be better at: "bouncing" your thoughts and always trying to overcome this temptation. My advice: keep praying, and while you're praying....don't forget to spend plenty of time reading your Bible. One sided conversations don't tend to do all that much good I find.
Derrick - 10/30/10 @ 5:34 PM
but thats the thing I've prayed for 7 months now....Fasted,meditated on the word daily,praised him...I don't know what God wants from me
CraigSnedeker - 10/30/10 @ 5:43 PM
Remember, when God is silent, he's always by your side.
PutHisBloodOnIt - 10/30/10 @ 6:01 PM
I know your looking for comfort or answers right now, but your not alone all of us have problems or question and sadness. We cannot answer some of the questions you have. You are still young and have the whole rest of your life to have things work out. I realized God works in time, and a lot of the time we don't get answers we want in our on time frame. So don't think of it as you prayed for 7months and nothing happened think of it you have come closer to God and have had 7months of success. God works in his time not ours. Don't you think God knows what he is doing? He has a plan for you even if you can't see it yet.
happy_panda - 10/30/10 @ 6:21 PM
I agree with Vanessa. God wants to help you, Nazira. I don't know your relationship with Him but I do know that He doesn't want you to go to hell at all. He loves you SOOO much, Nazira! Since I've never had this battle, I don't have any firsthand advice but I know it must be hard. Are you praying to become "straight" or just trying to stop your homosexual lusts? =[
Derrick - 10/30/10 @ 7:18 PM
@happy_Panda I do not have homosexual lust....If anything I have lust only for beyonce...when i hear her songs or her music videos....
but I renew my mind daily and I don't look at girls like I want to sleep with them...I just see them as beautiful inwardly and outwardly...
And I am praying that God will make me straight....
And my question is if God doesn't want me to go to hell...then how come I can die any day now and if i die as a homosexual i would go to "hell"
Because every christian is telling me it is that black and white...no homosexual will inherit the kingdom of god...right?
Casey - 10/30/10 @ 7:42 PM
i am no pastor, and definitely not a scholar of biblical topics, but God did say in Matthew 12:31 "Wherefore I say unto you, All manner of sin and blasphemy shall be forgiven unto men: but the blasphemy against the Holy Ghost shall not be forgiven unto men."
Im under the impression that blasphemy of the holy spirit is the only unforgivable sin
OR
Every sin is forgivable as long as you have accepted the gift of salvation.
Just please remember, whether you are homosexual or not, God loves you so much! He will never think otherwise, and He will never love you less than any of His other children! For god hates the sin, not the sinner. Just continue to pray and be honest with God.
Another idea? Be quiet!! Haha seriously, sometimes I stop and think "Ive prayed and prayed for this answer!! Why hasnt God answered my prayers!!! Oh. Wait. Maybe he answered it long ago, and I just didnt hear him!!" Taking at least 2 minutes of TOTALLY SILENT time every day to listen to God has helped me a lot! Ill be praying for you!
Derrick - 10/30/10 @ 8:08 PM
Thank you Casey
Stephanie - 10/30/10 @ 8:41 PM
Hmmm, well I think that sometimes, as with any sin that we struggle with, its a struggle. Matthew 16:24 says "take up your cross and follow me" (quotes dont represent exact wording because i didnt look it up) - but the point is that our sin is our cross - we have to pick it up and carry it to calvary, just like Jesus did with the physical cross. The Christian life is the narrow, difficult path - but that obedience to God leads to the ultimate blessing (eternal fellowship with God in heaven). The Bible also says choose this day who you will serve because you can't serve two masters (Joshua 24:15).
Earnest prayers are good. Maybe you dont have an attraction for men because God wants to be the only one you seek for a while (I'm not trying to say that you are not seeking God or anything - just a possible way to look at it). I know for me that this past year after i broke up with my last boyfriend, their were all kinds of guys that I had opportunity to start a relationship with, and even felt some attraction to them, but not one of them was a christian - not one!! I was like "God, where are all the Christian guys - why do I not have any opportunities with them" and I felt like God told me that I needed to be completely satisfied and content in God before He would bring Mr. Right. I know the situation is different, but the concept is the same - the only opportunities I had were with people who it would be sinful for me to start a relationship with. But like I said - I needed to be content in Him first. I dont know why there were unhealthy opportunities, but I had convictions that I had to uphold - Yes it would have been easier to just start dating any of those guys (and trust me, it crossed my mind) But one thing that has kept me this far (because yeah, even after a year there have still only been unhealthy options for me) is the belief that when God first started tugging on my heart to drop the relationship that was unhealthy, He had something better for me. Yeah, it was difficult - and it still is at times, but I know that God is changing me (probably the most when it hurts.
This passage from C.S. Lewis is a good description of what I'm talking about:
"The very first tear he made was so deep that I thought it had gone right into my heart. And when he began pulling the skin off, it hurt worse than anything I've ever felt. The only thing that made me able to bear it was just the pleasure of feeling the stuff peel off.... Well, he peeled the beastly stuff right off - just as I thought I'd done it myself the other three times, only they hadn't hurt - and there it was lying in the grass: only ever so much thicker, and darker, and more knobbly looking than the others had been."
~ C. S. Lewis "The Voyage of the Dawn Treader"
Sometimes, I wonder if God wants to strengthen our resolve to live for Him - I dont know for sure, but it seems to me that if changing our lives to live for Him werent difficult in the beginning then we would not hesitate to go back to sin. Like, it wouldn really be a change or a resolve because even if we did desire to be different if we went back to sin we could just change back for God whenver we felt like it - no pain. But because the reslove is painful, we dont even want to experience that again - so even when we are tempted our scars remind us of where God has taken us and that we dont really want to be back there again.
wheww - I dont know if what I just wrote makes sense or not - but it makes perfect sense to me lol
Vanessa - 10/30/10 @ 8:47 PM
After reading your last post Nazira, I would recommend not listening to Beyonce or watching her music videos, if that is what makes you stumble.
There is nothing wrong with seeing girls as beautiful, it is only wrong if you are lusting after them.
Rachel - 10/30/10 @ 9:02 PM
"The thief (Satan) dose not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I (Jesus) have come that you may have life, and have it more abundantly." John 10:10
I wish I had some good quality advice to give right now, but my sleep tank is running on empty, lol. And I can't focus.
I do agree with Casey. Sometimes the quickest way to hear from God is to just be silent before him.
Mark - 10/30/10 @ 9:49 PM
Ohhhhh Nazira, sweetheart, He has changed you. (2 Corinthians 5:17) You ARE a new creation, by faith you have to believe it. The only sin that hasnt been taken as far as the east is from the west is the sin of unbelief, because one hasnt truly believed that Christ's blood sacrifice is sufficient enough for total forgiveness of their sins! (Hebrews 9,10) Ya I know you are still dealing with putting those old thoughts and behaviors to rest, so is everyone else who has been given life from the dead.(Romans 7:24,25)(2 Corinthians 5:9) (1 John 3:9) But remember we walk by faith and not by sight.(2 Corinthians 5:7) And what is faith? (Hebrews 11:1)
Its our relationship with Christ that is the most important thing! Your broken and contrite heart is beautiful to Him!(Psalms 51:17) Keep your trust in Him that what He has started He will finish! (Hebrews 12:2)(2 Corinthians 3:18, 4:8,9)(John 19:30)(Romans 1:16,17)(2 Timothy 1:12)(Hebrews 10:14)
As said it will be wise to steer clear of putting yourself in tempting situations! God is not mocked nor is He slack concerning His promises! (Hebrews 12:4-6)
It is Gods grace that saves us and teaches us to say no to unrighteousness. (Titus 2:11-14) We love Him because He first loved us. (1 John 4:19)
jake - 10/31/10 @ 10:58 AM
Im with Mark completely. You are a new creation in Christ Jesus and there is no condemnation in he who saved you. To be tempted and to give into temptation are two different things.
Literally every time that a thought contrary to what God has spoken comes into your mind (Studies show its like every 6? seconds for a guy, so I understand where your coming from) simply recite scripture pertaining to your mind, and it doesnt have to be out loud. Like I say "I crucify and mortify my sinful desires and command them to come in line with the scriptures that say ...(Whatever the word says about that thought)."
I hope this helps. I have seen so much success in my life and I am dong a lot better in that area. (Still not perfect but you know!)
Zombie Pickles - 10/31/10 @ 12:35 PM
I struggle w/ boy craziness. I can't focus on school or church is there is a REALLY cute guy next to me. and one thing I've noticed is that God won't do anything for me if I don't try to do it half way.I have to really focuse on whatever I'm learning on and not the kid next to me. If I try to stop, then God will help me
I'm not saying that you aren't trying, but prayer is only half of it. I hope this doesn't offend you... if it does I'm sorry.
Also, you won't die unles God lets it happen. So you can find comfort in that.
Sarah - 10/31/10 @ 12:48 PM
Nazira, I totally agree with Mark and Jake. You are new in Christ.
As long as you repent of any sins, you will go to heaven. God isn't going to send you to hell if you are SORRY for it. He won't send you to hell anyway!
Never give up. Be persistent. This may be something you'll struggle with for life--a thorn in the flesh. Just commit to taking it a day at a time; fighting any lust.
And I agree with Vanessa--if Beyonce makes you struggle, stay away from her music, etc.
A lack of interest in males is okay as long as you are not lusting after females, dear sis. And at your age, I was very topsy-turvy about guys (love them one minute, and the next I'd be declaring I'd never marry!)
Lean on God. He DOES love you, and He will never leave you. Also remember that we love you, and are willing to support you.
KingsKid - 10/31/10 @ 1:38 PM
Yes, it is ok to not be having an attraction to guys right now. Like Sarah said.
Keep your focus on Jesus Christ and the work He did on the cross for YOU and know that He is working all things out for your good. He has a great plan for you!!! A really great one, Nazira!
We all get tempted. It isn't a sin to have the temptation. It is what we do with the temptation that determines whether we have sinned or not.
Don't give up! You can overcome the snares of the enemy.
Tony - 11/2/10 @ 10:31 AM
Nazira, we all fall short of the kingdom of God, and it's only by accepting God's gift of Grace and Salvation that we are saved. We all have our sins, being attracted to women is not a sin, but acting on that attraction is what is sinful. And even when we don't understand why God would put us in a certain situation, we have to have faith and trust that he know's exactly what he's doing. I think over time, you will have proper perspective. By having the strength to deal with your struggle, you may have the opportunity to bear witness to someone struggling in the future. Continue to pray for daily strength and forgiveness if you act on your temptations. And if you can do that everyday, I gaurantee that your relationship with Christ will grow stronger. Remember, when Christ walked this earth he was surrounded by many sinners that were socially taboo for the times. So even though our christian society may frown upon homosexuality, God's is forgiving and loves you unconditionally. I will pray that your walk with God continues......
Sarah - 11/2/10 @ 4:50 PM
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GenTLEmEn01 - 11/11/10 @ 7:04 PM
I personally was addicted to pornography for about 2 years and I asked God the same question. I came to the understanding that it is my inability to be strong and me relying on MYSELF to fix the problem that kept me in bondage to this sin. I confess my sin to my parents and 4 of my closest friends and a youth leader at my church. All of them keep me accountable for it now and I no longer struggle with it. So I would encourage you to tell someone you trust to keep you accountable.
joseBloodBought - 11/29/10 @ 8:31 AM
Pray without ceasing. I dont care if its 7 months or 70 years conitnue in prayer.