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Valuing Your LOVER's elses SALVATION? posted in Get A Clue on 10/27/10 @ 10:25 PM by DNieka

How do u feel about valuing your lover's salvation? I believe we should VALUE our own, as well as our spouses. Meaning we value from observation and conversation. TRUST and HONESTY. I personally do. It allows for your relationship with God and your spouse to flourish abundantly, simply because GOD is 1st! Just wanted to know how everyone else felt in reguards to this topic, or if I was the only one. I'm open for the conversation. GOD bless.

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Riley - 10/28/10 @ 8:27 AM

salvation? or walk? Because if you and your spouse are both saved then we're talking about valuing each other's walk. If that were the case, then I have some opinions.

God tells us when we are married, that Man and Woman become 1 flesh. So we need to give encouragement, respect, and above all Love as defined by God. But we cannot try to save anyone ourself, ( which many of us our guilty of , including myself at times ) but remember that God is the one who saves. God wants a very personal relationship with each individual, and some things are meant to be kept between you and God alone.

Having a relationship with God leading the way is a beautiful thing, and trust is key.

I'm not sure if I even answered you question , but please explain if I went off track :)


Jasmine - 10/28/10 @ 10:38 AM

I think that if you are not married then you should definately value your future spouse's salvation. You should pray that they are living right and have a close walk with God.

When your are married you should velue each others walk. Your spouse should be a christian as well, so yes you should value their salvation, but you should also value their walk with God. How they live their life and treat others. It is definately something we should do.


DNieka - 10/28/10 @ 7:04 PM

@RILEY, yes you did kind of go off track. I am talking about valuing salvation, which the walk is included in salvation. Not saying I want to save them, but that i just trust and have faith in their salvation. Value= relative worth, merit, or importance: the value of a college education; the value of a queen in chess. The value of your spouse's or lover's salvation. What is it worth to u? Do u value it? Is it of any importance? I hope I cleared the confusion of my question.


DNieka - 10/28/10 @ 7:42 PM

@Jasmine, so here's another tuff one, how about the value of just another person's salvation that u don't know at all? Is that righteous or unrighteous???????? Something to think about, but is it written in Scripture? I don't know, but it's definiately a good topic and it also maybe a good description of the value of our own salvation.


Riley - 10/28/10 @ 8:59 PM

@DNieka, ok i understand. I believe that we should value our Loved one's walk.


joseBloodBought - 10/29/10 @ 9:45 AM

I'm still a little confused about the exact question you are asking so I will answer to the best of my ability. For starters, the bible teaches us not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers. So typically it is very important that we found a spouse who is grounded in Christ and loves the Lord such as we. We definitely must value their salvation. Jesus taught us to love each other as He loved us. He died that we may be saved. Therefore the salvation of others is extremely important. We Also if I love my neighbor as myself (specifically my spouse) then I want the same things for them that I want for myself. Salvation.


Thirst - 10/29/10 @ 5:39 PM

I'm sorry if I derail the thread, but I think you should hold your lovers salvation to the highest degree of importance.

I found out the my own lover, who I intend to marry and live with, has skin cancer. Unless they come out with a cure in the next couple of years... I don't know how long she'll live. She isn't saved, and right now that's one of the things I'm trying so hard to change. She doesn't like me bringing up church in conversation, because it reminds her I may eventually have to make a choice between her and God.

I say you should hold your lover's salvation to the highest degree of importance.


Rachel Spoon - 12/11/10 @ 2:30 PM

The way the question is worded confuses me a bit, but I really value my boyfriend's salvation. I pray every night that he'll come back to God. I know I could never marry someone who didn't know God for themself. "A cord of three strands in not quickly broken". I want my relationship to consist of me, my lover, and my God. Without the salvation of my partner, I might be influenced by his non-belief to stray away from God.


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